Women who doesnt want sex from her husband

[Ricardo22]

After months of troubles in my own marriage, I was trying to recall what was different when we were just married and happy, also was recalling previous girlfriends when life was much simpler and exciting.

What I see missing now is the friendship and acceptance, and the idea we used to have that our partner was "cool" or was "great". We don't think our spouse is cool or fun anymore, nor we accept him/her, as we know all the defects, all the times we felt hurt, all the problems caused, etc. etc. We continue with that person because we sworn to do that, and for financial reasons, and for the kids and family, and for religion. Some times we still love the person, but now we know all the bad things so we don't admire the person anymore, and we are not in awe of that person anymore.

What *might* save that kind of situation is that one does a brainwash, and make the decision to admire and like the spouse as if he/she was the coolest and cutest person around (which actually he/she might be according to other people). This implies to honestly approve and enjoy everything he/she does or say. Not in a dumb or submissive way, but in a candid and honest way like you would with a stranger person who seems to be cool.

Probably you wont like this approach, because you feel accumulated distrust, dissatisfaction, and even hate. Its up to you: either you continue *enjoying* your hidden hate and desire for justice/vengance, which will lead you either to an unhappier marriage or a divorce, or ... you brainwash yourself and decide to behave happily. That would bring a third option, *maybe* that would bring back a happy marriage to you sooner than you expect!