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[hrtbrkn]

Hi everybody i just joined cause i have been feeling really down lately. My marriage is not going well. I had to make the decision and leave my husband in the apt and go stay with family. I want us to mend the pieces but he is still young and I feel that since he has never been on his own he doesnt know for sure if he really wants this. He says he misses me and the 2kids but he is not showing me that he is willing to do what it takes to get us back.

I think the reality that it might take longer than a month is starting to set in and so I was feeling a little caved in and just wanted to talk to other people in the same boat.

[marriagepartner]

hrtbrkn

Would you please explain 3 reasons why and how your marriage did not work besides your point that he is young and not on his own etc.

From your brief it appears that he is slightly immature but that does not mean he is a bad person. What have you done to help him get matured and bit smarter so that he could stand up on his own to be a support his family? Have you done your part?

[lonelyone1964]

Sorry to hear about your situation. I too am going through a separation at the moment, which is now approaching 2 months. I love her deeply, but she will not speak to me. She has always put her 32 yr old daughter in our problems and it seems to have ended our relationship. I am hoping for a miracle and cannot breakout of the despair.

[JimM]

Originally Posted by hrtbrkn

Hi everybody i just joined cause i have been feeling really down lately. My marriage is not going well. I had to make the decision and leave my husband in the apt and go stay with family. I want us to mend the pieces but he is still young and I feel that since he has never been on his own he doesnt know for sure if he really wants this. He says he misses me and the 2kids but he is not showing me that he is willing to do what it takes to get us back.

I think the reality that it might take longer than a month is starting to set in and so I was feeling a little caved in and just wanted to talk to other people in the same boat.

I am new to this site. My wife just separated from me. I would like some positive advise from people who have reconciled and got back together after a separation. I love my wife, we have been married 16 years. She has been uphappy for the past few years and I just didnt recognize it. What should I do for now? Should I give her some space and see if she starts to miss me? Or should I let her know in suttle ways that I want her back very much and would do want ever it takes to fix the marriage. I offered to go to marriage counceling before she left but she said it wouldnt help.

[ejl6162]

Boys I am in the same boat. Been married for 6 years. love her to death she is by far the best thing in my life. I want her back badly. I don;'t know it there is anything I can do to make her understand that I will and can do anything she needs me to do, But here is the deal too. I am a very talented man I know a lot of different trades and a lot of different skills. I am very good a communication all though my typing might not be all that good. I just don;t know what to do anymore. But I will tell you this. Begging and pleading is not working. I know that I made mistakes she has admitted she has too but to just state that those will be corrected is not enough. I am at a loss. I love her I want her back I want my life back in that town but don't know what to do or where to go from here.