| |
| |
|
Relationships Information |
|
|
|
The Informal Normal In a Black-Tie-Affair World
Have you noticed the trend? You ever notice how on programs like "The Bachelor" most of their dating episodes are via limousine escort? They travel to lavish destinations amid scenic splendor. The sunsets are so beautiful you can almost hear nature singing its own rendition of, "Love Is A Many Splendid Thing". You rarely ever even see a rainy day. In "Sleepless In Seattle", the audience was left "Speechless in New York" atop the Empire State Building. The climactic romantic interlude that followed is one that will be etched in the memory of movie-lovers for a long time to come. In "Sabrina", the audience feels the eloquent charm and ambience of Paris. "You've Got Mail" spammed us with the scenic elegance and grandeur of all that's good in and around "The Big Apple". If you really want to be depressed, sit and watch some of the work out programs that abound. Watch as brisk morning breezes enrapture the velvety clouds tracing the horizon from the backdrops of scenic vistas and ocean views. Who couldn't be motivated to work out? We easily become captivated by "Lifestyles of The Rich and Famous", "Cribs", and the latest craze of "Extreme Make Over-Home Edition", dreaming if only... Watch a few of the music videos that abound at VH1, MTV and BET. You will see more money, lavish diamonds, fancy fashions, flashy gold jewelry, expensive limousines and other fine automobiles watching these music video programs for one hour than most people will see in the average lifetime. All commercials seem to have the same goal in mind to make us feel that their product is the missing link to our imminent happiness. We live in a Black Tie Affair World! No wonder so many people struggle with comparisons. When one becomes enamored by the glitz and the glamour so prevalent in our culture, it is easy to feel relationally shortchanged and cheated in life. This Black-Tie-Affair mindset causes many couples to strive to keep up with the Joneses to the point of being maxed out to the hilt in financial demise from debt. Money issues are cited as one of the biggest reasons for the breakdown in the family leading to divorce. Are you struggling with the fantasy? Are you confused with all the hoopla? Is this life reality? Is this relational reality? Is it reality? If it is, I must be missing something. I must have made a wrong turn in the road somewhere. Most of the families I know must have made the wrong turn with me. Although my wife and I love each other very much, much of our relationship life is spent, well, INFORMALLY NORMAL. A day in the life for most couples is spent: Most of the world struggles with getting up, getting old, getting fat, getting sick or simply getting by. So, do yourself a favor. Stop buying in to all the hoopla and falsehood. If you get caught in this web of deceit, you just may miss out on what really matters - faith, family, character and integrity. The last time I checked, love wasn't defined by the word MONEY. For words that better define love you may want to consider: commitment, sacrifice, support, unselfishness, home building, encouragement, forgiveness, planning and working together. Maybe a bit informal and normal...maybe not as flashy as dollar signs...but ironically, a lot richer! ©Copyright 2004 advice-for-lifetime-relationships.com by Stanley J. Leffew ALL RIGHTS RESERVED! Stanley J. Leffew is the Author of, "How To Be Wanted For a Lifetime of Nights and Not Just a Night of a Lifetime". His website is based on this same theme. Find out for yourself why feeding desire and leading-with-the-body in life and relationships fails to satisfy the longing of human heart to connect by visiting http://advice-for-lifetime-relationships.com..
MORE RESOURCES:
Relationships - Google News |
|
|
|
RELATED ARTICLES
What Does a Dangerous Man Look Like? When you are dating you try to keep from a dangerous man. What do they look like? Why is when you are dating people that some guys just manage to slip through the cracks before revealing their true colors? What are they looking for in a woman? What can you do to protect yourself from a dangerous man?One of the first things to realize is that dangerous men, look just like regular men. Can This Relationship Be Helped? I have been counseling couples for 35 years. Quite often individuals come in for help wondering if it is really possible to save or improve their relationship. Soul Mate - a Pain in the Neck "and they lived happily ever after.. How Do I Get Him or Her To Talk To Me?!!! This is a common concern in our society for single people of any age; how to make contact with someone that we like on a soft matter without being forward. The truth of the matter is that we have the opportunity to meet that special person everyday; at the bus station, at the grocery store, at church, at a class, at the gym, at the coffe shop, at the library. Relationship Advice: 10 Ways to Survive a Break Up Break ups are never easy. You are a bundle of jealous, hurt, angry, resentful emotions. You Have to Probe Deeper: Why First Impressions Are Dangerous Do you remember when, as a small child at a birthday party, you sat wide-eyed and gaping as a magician pulled out a rabbit with a flourish from a seemingly empty top hat? At the time, the wonder of it all left you speechless and full of awe, but like all healthy children, you grew a little wiser as you grew a little older. The next time you were present at such a performance, the "magician" might have turned into a "conjurer. How To Quickly Turn Platonic Friends into Lovers Using The New 5-Step Jealousy Technique I'm going to get straight to the point. If you want to exit the platonic zone, you need to focus on two things. Is It Love or Money? What do women or men want out of a relationship? I know I want a man who really loves me, and the feelings are definitely reciprocated. I want to grow old with someone. Improve Your Relationships Through Vastu Do you want be in a relationship that brings you deep fulfillment and love? Or perhaps you want a more satisfying connection with that one person already in your life? Would you like to have a deeply rewarding relationship with yourself?From a Vastu perspective, if your home is not in proper balance, those things that you desire most in life can elude you causing sadness, disappointment, and lost opportunities. Relationships, like other areas of your life, can be compromised when your home is not in balance with the natural forces that permeate the world and our Universe. The Three Levels of Soul Mates From my own personal experience of being involved in certain relationships, I have come to realize there are three different levels of Soul Mates. We discussed Soul Mates in a previous article of mine, 'Soul Mates - Do they really exists" now we should keep our eyes open and pay closer attention to our relationships, in order that we might recognize those soul mates. He Said, She Heard: Communication Meltdown within Relationship It starts young, as babies. We learn communication from our parents starting with single words--mama, dada, we add adjectives, big boy, nice kitty. The Grammar of Good Communication No, this is not a rehash of primary-school grammar; nor is it a discourse on the finer points of rhetoric!There are some practical points which can make a powerful difference in the efficacy of your communication -- whether on the job, with your spouse or when you are among friends.What is "good communication?" Much of what passes for conversation is a play with two performers, each impatiently waiting for the other to finish so they can declaim the lines they've been preparing as the other is talking. You Dont Have to Break Down, When You Break Up! Very few people would argue with the fact that creating successful relationships is often one of the biggest challenges we face as human beings. The strange thing is that life can become even more challenging when they end. ARC of Understanding In relationship we all make mistakes and sometimes we are insensitive to the needs of others, especially those very close to us All this leads to disappointments and resentments. The answer to handling disappointments is understanding. Noon (A Love Story) Noon (A Short Love story, dedicated to my wife Rosa)Marina, raised and born in Huancayo, Peru. Young and beautiful fell in love with Winston, a handsome man, but not of her culture, rather he was quite the opposite in that he was a gringo, as she called him, and she an Inca, as he called her; but love flowed, and it was as should be, love at first sight, and a lasting love. When Groucho Marx Got It Right Groucho Marx was, I believe, a comic genius; a linguistic virtuoso, offbeat, wacky and insanely funny. He was also rude, abrasive and these days he'd qualify as verbally abusive. How Not to Compromise With Your Partner Do you ever disagree with your spouse? Or your boyfriend or girlfriend? Of course not - she/he/it is perfect, right?You can imagine my shock when my friend confided in me that he and his wife often fought over tiny things."You're kidding. Relationship Advice: 5 Tips to Make a Strong Marriage Even Better 1. Time together is time during which the complete focus is on each other. How Do We Know When A Relationship Has A Future? In many instances, we all are "gun shy" after a short-or long- term relationship, because being hurt or feeling bad is not an option.This stinging feeling tends to guide us as we clamor for something new or fresh. Great Relatinship Advice: The Ability to Meet Emotional Needs Harville Hendrix, in his book ``Getting the Love You Want'' has some interesting and helpful notions about the process of falling in love. According to Hendrix, as we fall in love with someone, we believe that this person will be able to meet all of our emotional needs.
|
| Home | Back to Index | site map |
| © 2006 |
