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Sound Seduction Advice for Dating and Romance Success
Background Seduction is a subtle tool used with the ultimate goal in mind of attracting and having sex with a chosen partner. Seduction is a form of flirting, but is more ambitious in its means, fulfilling our desire for sex and companionship. Having sex may be the ultimate goal, but for some, the thrill of seduction lies in the pursuit rather than the actual conquest. The excitement of wanting and chasing someone can give a sense of satisfaction in itself. For others, just knowing that another person's sexual attention is focused on them gives them that sexual and emotional high. Generally, people with a great deal of self-confidence enjoy the pursuit more than those who are shy and introverted, and their belief in themselves increases the likelihood of success. Other factors in achieving success are choosing the right partner to seduce, picking the right time and choosing the appropriate location. These may seem obvious, but they really do matter. Choosing the right person to seduce is more a matter of instinct than anything else. After all, most of us attempt to make conversation, or at least some eye contact, with a potential partner who we consider to be about as attractive as we feel we are. Once you've sought out your potential mate, you have to decide whether the time and situation is right. If the person you desire is somebody you see on a regular basis, the time and place being wrong may add to the thrill, i.e. the forbidden fruit. If you're getting the right feedback, the knowledge that the other person is interested, but not being able to do anything about it, at least at that particular moment, can increase your feelings of arousal and excitement. From here on out, this will be written from the male perspective, but can be equally applied to the female point of view. The Approach How do you know whether she's interested in you in the first place? Her actual body language is a better indicator of how she feels about you than anything she says verbally. For instance, women with an open posture are usually more amenable than those who stand with their arms crossed. Small gestures and tone of voice tell us a lot about how she might perceive us. Eye-contact is also very revealing. With experience, you'll get a 'feel' whether she's interested or not. Men, who are generally the pursuers, are highly dependent on women's signals to reassure them that they are 'onto something' and at least have a chance. Playing hard-to-get isn't particularly attractive to men unless there are enough signals sent out to assure that the woman is indeed 'gettable' and that the chase will be worth doing. The Follow-Up Once you've made contact with her, you'll need to let her know where the encounter is likely to be heading. People have very different ideas of what sex should be, so it's important that you both know that you're looking for the same things. You should probably not blurt out something too obvious. You can, and that may work, but in general, the subtle approach is more likely to succeed. You then ask her questions and try to access whether you'd make a satisfactory sex partner. If everything goes along smoothly, there might be a slightly tense, but hopefully, pleasant exchange of 'self-probing' back and forth conversation. People typically discuss sex in a light-hearted, abstract manner when accessing a potential partner, testing each other in a non-committal way. Now that you're speaking, you have to sustain her interest. Two people, who may have been attracted to each other visually, may not have the right chemistry to move along the road of seduction. Look for signs of acceptance or rejection. If you pick up on any signs of rejection, don't waste your time on something that is very unlikely to happen, no matter how attractive she might be. There are plenty of other fish in the sea. If you're still doing fine and the signals are good (and you haven't gotten slapped), it's time to move onto the 'kill'. 13 Things to Know As a quick summary, here are 13 important ideas that you need to be aware of to get the girl of your dreams. The first 4 are actually things to avoid, while the rest should be followed. Whether you're on the prowl or already on a date, if you apply these concepts you will increase your chances of getting women to be more interested in you. Maybe even possibly enough to fall in love and have wonderful sex with you. * NEVER, ever look at another woman when on a date. It's rude, disrespectful and can hurt her feelings. * NEVER, ever make comments about her weight or any other subject she might feel self-conscious of. * NEVER, ever use the time-of-the-month crack for any reason. There could be many reasons besides her 'period' to explain her moody or bitchy behavior. * NEVER, belch or do any other embarrassing bodily functions in front of her. Leave that for the guys' poker night. * Be honest about you feelings. Don't string along a woman just for sex if you have no intentions for an emotional commitment. Unless that's all she wants as well, but you need to make sure what are her intentions beforehand. * Compliment her on her clothes, and how good and sexy she looks. * Always listen to what she has to say. * Pay attention to her and make her feel important and special. * As follow-up, buy her flowers, candy, cards, etc. to make her feel loved and wanted. * Be a gentleman by opening the door, pouring her drinks, etc. * Make an effort to get along with her family and friends, as difficult as that can be sometimes. * Don't lose contact with you own friends * Treat her exactly how you would like to be treated. I would like to thank Sharon Jacobsen, "The Art of Seduction" and Don Diebel, "10 Keys to Getting Along With Single Women for Successful Dating, Seduction" for their ideas. If you would like more specific information about seduction and pick-up advice, go to http://www.SoundSeductions.com By Jeremy Ben-Israel
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