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I always wondered if my wife of 12 years was really a virgin as she told me she was. I got her to tell me the truth recently and she was not. She told me she had sex with 1 person before me. I could tell she was still lying. 2 weeks later she told me there was 2 people before me. It's been very hard to deal with recently, but I'm willing to make it work. I was a virgin until her. We met at 18. How do I get out of the past. She is a faithful loving wife who is willing to do anything for me. I want this out of my head. I guess I relied on the happiness i got of thinking I had been the only one for my wife. HELP!

All advice welcome.

I met this woman 3 plus years ago.
She told me her name and age...only to find out a year and a month later... it was an alias. Totally different information. She lied to me, and kept me in the dark not only of that but mant more things..to much to write. I forgave her, and eventually we got married. Married now 1 1/2 plus years. But..I thought things changed, but I caught her in more lies. Now we have been separated almost 2 months ..the last month I have made no attempts to contact her. She would call frequently but I would not answer.. her calls have diminished but she even called tonite... I want to talk to her because I do love her, but I caught her in more lies ..these while we are married. I was told by a Pastor to go to a marriage counselor ..for me to set the appointment and notify her of it. Trouble In Marriage.. All Advice Welcome.
Thank you.

I will try to keep the story short as possible

I have been in relation with a girl for almost four years. We have been treating each other as a friend until one year later when the relation turned from her side to love relation. For me I will be laying if I said that I didn't feel the same but I tried not to get more deeply in that feeling and keep her as a friend because of tow reason, First I was not ready (Financially) for marriage at that time and although She had stated many times that she love me and she is ready to do anything to help our marriage.
and second was her past which she had told me about. that past was full of mistakes and irresponsible relationship with guys that had resulted in sexual relationships.

She was having doubt that I refuse getting marriage because of the second reason but I untruly convinced her that it is only the first reason and she was not convinced but she accept it because she want to keep the relation even as a friend.

we kept our relation even thought I moved to leave in another country. I kept calling her and going out when I came back in vacation.

To be honest it became something essential in my life.

one week ago happened what I had never think about it. a man propose marriage for her (Arranged marriage). I felt crazy and I told that I love her and I cant leave without her but marriage I am not sure of it especially the marriage in our culture require to many arrangements (parents approval, many financial commitments...etc) and for hidden reason that I’m still thinking about her past.

She refused the other man and she is giving us another chance.

please tell me what to do ? is it Ok to marry a women with a past ? do I will be able to forget? I'm sure she love me and i love her too and I cant leave without her but I'm not sure that marriage will work out because of the reason I mentioned.

hello i was expecting my wife virgin.
she told me everything befor we got married i am still thinking about her boy friends and she did abortion and and i do not know what to do. please help me

Emmanuel
You were expecting her to be virgin but she did tell you before the marriage and wedding took place about her prior life.

There are two aspects to it.
One is past. You are clinging to past over which you or she has no control.
The past is gone and can not be fixed.

Second is your present. You are destroying your present by being in past and not appreciating what you got.
If she loves you and you love her, then whats the deal. Past is a dead object. Will you keep a dead and useless object in your bedroom? If not extract that past from your mind by affirmations to yourself and by appreciating her and enjoy your life and give her better life than she ever experienced. She will be better than two thousand virgins who can make your life miserable.

Please write me if still in doubt. Appreciate and enjoy life otherwise you will soon imbalance your marriage and for sure your health.
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