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Help me! My brother in law is about to marry a women that I have some ill feeling towards. A little background may help................A few years ago I hired my future sister in law to work for me as a favour. She was out of work and I had a fairly high profile position. I was pregnant at the time. Once my child was born I was to go on maternity leave for three months only so that the business would not fall behind. The owner hired three people to do my job one being my soon to be sister in law. Day one out of the hosital the calls began to come in. I got to stay home for one week and then started making daily trips to the office to get them out of hot water. 2 months later after fixing numerous mistakes I was asked to resign as well as two others working in the office. A new man was hired and my future sister in law was kept on to do a special assignment. Three months later my husband and I were blind sided with a law suit from my former employer. We were told by this lady on the same day that we were informed about this that she had nothing to do with it but she did know a few days in advance that it was going to happen. As a result I fell into a deep depression, the law suit dragged on for five years until because of health reasons I settled it. One year later due to the great deal of money it cost us my husband and I went bankrupt and separated. My brother in law and this lady became my husbands support system durring this time. Although he held some very ill feeling towards her in the past. We always new that the special assignment was to dig and fabricate so that I would be ruined. When my husband and I separated I got fairly nasty emails from her. My husband and I have started couselling and are workingour relationship out. We do love each other. However he continues to visit this girl and have talks with her. I know she about to become his suster in law but it really hurts me. How can I get over this. She will soon be family and everyone likes her.

Thats quite nutty and sad.

You only have one course.
To let her and the past events go completely.

Just LOOK at your life and your immediate family.

You can simply avoid anyone who is not of your liking. However it will be hard to control your husband. He can do what he pleases as long as it does not hurt you directly.

The best course as I said is to let go and forget the past. Nothing can be achieved from ill will and resentment. Just look forward and focus on your life, your happiness and your home.

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My husband and I have been married for three months. His mom did not even speak to me at the wedding. I asked her to help make my bridesmaids dresses so she went to the fabric store with me to pick the fabric and pattern I paid for it and she agreed to do it. When my bridesmaids meeting came up she was suppose to measure everyone and she never showed up and she has not mentioned anything about it sense.She wasnt sick in the hospital or in jail so why couldnt she hae called me. I felt that that was really important.His sister was a bridesmaid and she was 20 minutes late to the wedding and she said nothing to me except where are the shoe (that I had to go out and get and pay for). Then she got on our wedding video and said that she would hurt me over her brother (not in a joking way). I was so embarrsed. Some of my guest that were sitting near his mothers table told me how she was talking about me. Again that was embarissing. His Mother has even called me out of my name and my husband has nothing to say. He says that he has more important things to worry about. I have never done anything to his family or him for that matter. So i don't understand why he thinks it ok. Why won't he talk to them? why isnt he upset? Confused

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