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My partenr has a 4 y o son from her previous marriage. Her ex husband put us though emotional and financial hell. Now that her divorce is over and we have moved on he wants to come and see his son's room, because apparently his son told him to do so.

I am VERY uncomfortable with this and it is eating at me. Please advise

moral of the story is.
Don`t trust Women.

Are you sure its your child...?

To Whom It May Concern:

I have a question for you regarding a relationship that I am in and by the way we are engaged. She has a little boy who's 5 yrs now and he goes once a week to visit his father. On one occasion I had to leave on Sunday night for business, not to return until later that week. The father dropped the boy off on Sunday evening as he commonly does but while I was out of town he showed up on the next night. He stayed late and apparently wanted to spend more time with his son, however my fiance was there and they were in our APT. While I was gone on my business trip, It was never mentioned to me. I also was wondering why I didn't get that Monday night phone call over to my Hotel. She told me she was tired. Upon my return, I noticed the Boy's room was immaculate. The little boy told me his daddy helped him clean the room. Now I cannot help what else he cleaned that night.

What do you think about this?
i'm engaged with this girl and she allows her ex to come over and hang out while I am gone. Then she doesn't tell me about it.

Should the EX be allowed to come over as soon as I leave town for business??

She's due to have our child in November 2004.


Sad that you have a child with her before marriage. It is a no no in most cases.

However you wont be able to stop or specially by force to the father of her first child as the child has rights to meet with his father.

Now questioning her relation with you?

Unless you really have full trust in her and she in you, you will never be able to really relate to her in a cordial bond without stress. You must really have more communication with her to reach a comfort zone.

On the other side if she was really in love with the first man she wont be with you hence questioning her integrity without knowing the truth is foolhardy. But it will be in all parties interest that you WORK on this little doubt NOW and finish the doubt for ever. Dont keep it in you else it will enlarge like an inflating ball.

editor

my wife has left me took are 2children and moved to her mothers we've been married for 5 yrs i admit i have done some wrong things and used drugs and she has filed protection order agianst me leaving me to live in my van she still contacts me on net saying she just wants legal seperation not divorce thank god i plan on changing for her told her i would even moving to were she is know all i want is for her to be happy please help

My girlfriend and I have 1 boy together and 2 boys from her previous marraige. We have lived together for 8 yrs. Before I met my girlfriend I was living the life of drugs. My girlfriend took me away from all that nonsense. It was really hard to let go at first but I finally did it. I have made many mistakes during our relationship.
For the past two years my attitude has changed. Mainly because I couldn't find work and if I did I did not make enough. I also realized that I was not taking responsibilies of being the man of the house. I got way to confortable with her working. My girlfriend works very hard. She has supported me and the kids for the past two years. Lately I have said things to her out of anger that were not very nice. I regret it a hundred times. I wish I could take everything back. Her mother past away a week ago. It really crushed her. These past few days she has totally put me out of her side. She wants me out of the house.

She says she wants to be by herself. I love my girlfriend so much. It hurts me inside that she is going through the death of her mom. She tells me she wants nothing to do with me. I know I need to give her her space. But it hurts that she wants me out. I know she is hurting inside. I want to make her happy and as much confortable she can be. She has not spoken to me in days. I finally found a very good paying job. This is one of the things that has been bothering her is that I don't make enough money.

We have been always struggling. Now that I have this job I feel that she still wants me out. I can't leave her. I know she is hurting. I don't know what to do. For the past few weeks I come home from work I cook, clean, wash dishes, do homework with the boys, do the laundry,etc. I get so exhausted every night. Yet still she does not speak to me or look at me. I am hurt because I don't want to leave. I will do anything for
her to make her happy. What should I do?

Congratulations to you for being brave, intelligent and finally getting rid of drug scene.

Next you are a good guy cos you admit doing things to others and being irresponsible in the past. BUT now you have changed and made wonderful progress.

You have changed internally for you for her and for being a good guy HOWEVER She still does not picture you as a guy of her dreams.

So what to do?

You got a good job, you are responsible, loving and changing for her.

You need to do following:
Take care of every thing you can while she mourn and saddened for her loss of mother. Help her without asking.

Do the best and do not complain.
After some time propose her and marry her.
Both of you can make it. If she has supported even while you dint do much you should now support her and help her.

Tell her you are sorry for disappointing but you do love her and want to be with her.

She will listen to you and will only believe when she SEES through indirect and passive actions.

What women want is care and love not flowers and fake words. I am sure you both will succeed.

DO not be disheartened by her temporary indifference.

Give her some time and meanwhile take care of all you can do.

You will be ok soon. When you are good nobody can stop you from growing. When you love someone from heart you grow and flourish. Be good to you and to her. Forget past and try create a new image for you..

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