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I have been in a lesbian relationship with someone for three years and they have a very flirtatious personality. In the last few months the flirting has gotten a bit more intense and it is worrying me and we have been fighting allot. She tells me that it is just the way she is and that she loves me very much and can't imagine her life with out me. At the same time it is hard for me to accept lately and I am starting to feel bad about myself. I am going to start counseling but what is your opinion.

Married to a great woman and mother for 19 years but am completley repulsed by her sexually.

WHAT DO I DO?

I had some really bad reactions the past several times we made love...horrible itching and sores - I can't climax let alone orgasm - the thought of her sexually really sickens me.

Sex once maybe twice a year really sucks...I refuse to cheat.

My husband knows that I have never been to a red sox game and it is the ONE thing that I would like to do with him...he had not been either. I can't stress enough of how it is the ONE thing I have ever told him I wanted to do together for the first time. Anyhow, he went to Boston for work...during his second day there, he said that his boss told him red sox tickets were difficult to get. I asked if he was trying to get them to go without me? He said no he wasn't because he was saving that for us to do. I said good...because I would be so hurt. The next day he was going to watch the game with our friend at a bar. He called me and said they were not going to go downtown because of how crowded it was. WELL, a couple hours later, he called me from the game and said that our friend surprised him with tickets to the game. I am so hurt. I told him to enjoy the game and I will talk to him later. Is it childish of me to be hurt by him doing this without me? How do I deal with this?

My husband and I married 3 years and most time we are happy couple. But one thing is really bothering me and I don't know how to solve the problem. I will be very appreciate any advice.

My husband is an American and I am an Asia. The problem happened most in restaurants, when there has cute Asia waitress, my husband eyes
immediately sparkle and eye browns are jumping up and down several times. This face action not happened often, sometime it happens when he looks at me and happy. What I think this face action happens when he excited on something. So I think he flirted on waitress. He said he didn't know he made the face and he won't flirt with other girls because he loves me. I don't mind he looks at a beautiful girl on the street because I think it is human nature, everybody like beautiful thing, but I don't know his face is his nature or not? And every time when he has that face, most waitress will immediately response back, big smiling back and talking to him. It is really make me mad. After that, we will have big argument and both of us upset, exhaust, and sick. And every time he is so mad and won't talk to me except blame on me. I am worry about him too angry and I need say sorry to make him feel better, I know both of us need responsible for this, but why I need say sorry to make him feel better.

I feel tired on this and I don't know how to solve this problem.

Thanks for any reply.

I am going to get married soon and we, my fiancé am me, have been talking a lot about different issues. Two of them, porn and masturbation. I am confused about that now and I wish that I could hear what other people think about it and I would appreciate if other people share their experiences with me.

He said that he can see himself masturbating and looking at his porn after we get married. He said that for him masturbating and having sex with me are two different issues.

Unfortunately, I don’t feel comfortable about that. When I know that he has been masturbating it’s kind of difficult for me to feel aroused, it’s just something that turn me off. I can not understand why if I am there for him he needs to masturbate sometimes. That made me feel like not enough for him. It’s not weird that you need to look at other naked bodies when you can be sharing your body with your wife?. What is the difference between cheat on me and look at porn? Anyways, he is looking another naked women, maybe he is not interacting with them but he is thinking about them when he is masturbating.

Our sexual life until now has been really good. I know that he doesn’t want to hurt me and when he saw that I was not feeling comfortable about that he deleted his porn from his computer. However, he said to me that he wants to be honest with me, that he miss his porn and that he thinks that when we are going to be married maybe he wants to look at your porn and masturbate from time to time (“If I have a high sex drive I don’t think it would hurt our relationship if I masturbated 2 or even occasionally 3 times a week, although I do not foresee it happening to that frequency’).

He said that is something completely normal for a guy to look at porn, even if he is married. He said that “Most men hide porn from their wives Because they know they cannot talk with them about without them trying to make the husband feel guilty or hurt themselves so they hide it because it is just something that they feel that they have to do”.

Am I doing a big deal of something that is a stupid thing? I wish I could hear the experiences of married woman and man that needed to deal (or are dealing) with this kind of problems.

I really appreciate your comments,

Carol

Dear Editor,
Thank you, and for everyones time. I'm still living life day by day, and just waiting to see what goes on. I'm doing much better now, just because I have learned it's better to let things go their way and whatever happens you just deal with it. I know I can see what everyone is saying much easier now. I'm still hoping that one day I will have the love of my life back in my arms once more. But til then I'm just going to stand up and go on with my life. I can't let it run over me anymore. Thank you again.

Thanks Editor for putting it point blank. I guess I needed to hear that from someone. It's still hard not to think about her everyday, but like you said it's going to take time to get over this. But I will not give up. I will stand in the background. I found a verse in the bible that I would like for people to read and this is why I am still not giving up. Read (Mark Ch.11 verses 20-24) I know they are lots of people who aren't believers but I am and this is how I feel. One day I will have this chance again, cause I believe in it. But it will just take time, and I just have to relize that.

Dear Jason

Whatever makes you happy and content is good.
I dint mean to say you should give up on people instead give them up to themselves back.

That will do good to you and to them.
YES surely you will have her back one day nobody can say when but you will notice that after a gap of time you will also change and the fire that you feel today will change its intensity.

It is all right to be in love but if love hurts negatively and makes one depressed it is wiser to let love find you naturally and without any force. Hope can move a lot but it can not program others.

So, the best course is to accept the reality as it is and change your course likewise to continue your life and those dependent on you. To destroy oneself for others action is no wisdom.

I am glad that you seem to have realized and hope this abrupt change in life becomes a new milestone for you. Please keep it up and keep us posted.

editor

Thanks Ed...... this is a couple days later (Tuesday) she told me lastnight that she wasn't attracted to me in a mental way. ???? She loves me but she isn't in love with me like I'm in love with her. She has already came and got her things and said she has already made up her mind, and there is nothing i can do or say to change her thought. I'm just having a hard time tring to figure out what is going wrong, or what I have done wrong. How can someone Love the other but the other doesn't or will have the same feeling for them even after being together for over 3 years. I'm 28 and she is 20 almost 21 and that is what I think is a major problem now. Maybe she was too young. Right now if she said that she wants to come back the door would be wide open for her, but it's going to be in the back of my mind that, Is she going to do this again?? But as of Tuesday night she said no even after I begged her to give me 1 last chance. She said she wasn't going to give me another chance because she wasn't going to loose another year of her life. I'm just wondering if someone has put something in her head about marraige or our relationship. I want her back so bad and it has only been 5 days. I don't want to push her away for anything. What should I do? I'm praying and hoping now. But it could be myself, and the more I think about it, I just wonder if it is me, or do I just have the worse luck of anyone. Maybe I will find out or maybe I won't. Thank you for you time that you took to read this. This means alot to me. God Bless


Dear Jason

DO NOT waste your time thinking bad about you. You have done nothing wrong indeed.

It is simply that you have to accept the reality, face it like a man, let her go and dont lament. Do not ask her again under any circumstances. More you ask her plead her you will distance her which she already did.

It is pointless to plead her or to wait for her. IT is natural that you feel torn apart for you really loved her.

BUT she dint love you. Her understanding of love is zero. You are very young, and this is the best of your times. Please do take my advice as a brother and do not wait for her.

JUST leave her. She is never going to be your wife. You need someone emotionally mature. Age is not really an issue here. Just suffer for few days but dont call her, chase her or wait for her. It is going to be all right man. Just take it easy. DO NOT BEG HER.

If you just suffer for few days it will be ok. You will be soon relieved from separation pain.

Sooner or later someone more compatible will appear in your life. However spend some time as a bachelor and love, true love will shine on your home.

editor

Me and my wife will have our 1st anniversary May 3rd. I found out today that she said that she needed some time to herself to see what our problems are. I know we haven't been the "married couple" in a long time, but she told me things that she wanted me to change. Well I did and a week later she wants time to herself to see if it's me or her thats having the problem.
I love her to the end of the world, but she is having difficulties tring to find herself and help me work things out. I can't get my mind off of her. She is at her moms house while I'm at ours. It's really hard on me not having her here to talk to and hold. I need some help. Anything would be great right now.


If you show bit of perseverance and patience it will pay you a great deal. It will be wiser to be as discreet as possible and respect her desire.

Agreed that you do love her but there are many subtle ways for you to demonstrate your love. Surprise her with some special acts of kindness.
If she says something to you listen to her carefully as women speak vital things through ordinary words. If you respect her it will be much better. Now if she is really not serious about you now, you will notice that too. Any relation that is connected unilaterally or from one persons side usually ends up abruply or can have frequent conflicts.

ed.

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