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Hello,
well i reciently started dating this guy..and at the one point he was all i could think about i ditched another guy for him because this guy was all that i thought i cared about..and he would write me love notes and he was nothing but good to me...he ditched his friends for me 24/7..but i never let him in "my space" and after a week of steadily seeing eachother..everything about him made me get turned off and made my skin crawl..im just confused because how come one day something that seems so right and seems like its going to be so perfect..be so gross and annoying the next day?

Please help me! I am very worried these days as time is flying quiekly tensions r growing more & more in me...my family is not agreeing with my love life becoz he is not good looking they dont wont 2 dicuss anything in this matter i have no problem with his family my elder sister is marrying in nov plese tell me what to do we love each other very much.

aoa
i have nothing to say coz all people have same problem that they love with someone trying to succecssful in their love me also love with someone.i want to say just beleive on god.if u love with someone say him or her and then leave on god god always do something better 4 us.if we fail to achive ur love,just think positive that in this thing
there is something good 4 us that ALLAH wants 4 us.hope soo some of u people relaxed now and INSHALLAH they will pass all the difficulties of life GOD BLESS U ALL

Hi there everyone!
I am in the worst situation ever. I am so confused, hurt, scared, and angry. I met a guy about 2 years and some change ago...it was instant chemistry. We got along perfect...finished eachother's sentences, enjoyed the same things and had the same values in life. Our families were very different but that was just a whole other drama story. We eventually began dating and loved every inch of eachother. Our love life was great, our social life was great. Everything even though we came into some hurdles came through with a smile and in love. Then he proposed to me...life couldn't get any better for me. I was the happiest girl in the world. NOW! I don't know what to do. For the last almost two months things have been hectic. We moved, we are graduating, we are working, things are coming together and I kept using our busy life as an excuse as to why things were different. But now I am really scared. He is soooooo good to me in every way. He treats me like gold...does so much for me and would never hurt a hair on my head. But, I can't hug him, I don't kiss him not to mention be intimate with him. He is always coming to hug and kiss me and be romantic and I give him the cold sholder in a heart beat. I don't know what is wrong. I am sooo scared. What happend to the happy couple...We use to be inseperable...hugging, kissing, touching eachother constantly. Now I can go without a hug and kiss. I just look at him and wonder. Is it me or him? What, if he did nothing is wrong with me. And then when I get in a very annoyed mood and start complaining about the way things are going...he says something sweet and says he will try harder....and it's never enough. Before it was more than enough...now I complain about the way things are and how unhappy I am with the way things are going all of the time. Please somebody help me...will things get back to normal? is it the hecticness in our lives? What is it? I am so scared!

signed
Emotionally Confused

Well if you examine carefully something changed in you not in him. That something is your own EMOTIONS and experiences that perhaps formed your attitude towards your ownself and others.
If you go bit deeper you may find the answers.

It can be an insecurity, fear of loss or other kinds of fears, doubts and suspicions etc. It can also be that in this time you diluted some of your appreciation for him to other people or events.

When we create a gap of intimate knowledge of other persons activities, mindset and feelings we perhaps disconnect with them somewhere on thought level. Look within and try find the missing links.

A way to connect with him will be to KNOW him and appreciate him by distinguishing from other men and see why and what is it in him that makes him special in your context. Very little minute details and attitude tells us if the other person genuinely loves or merely creating a false impression. In most cases love is never false as it is the purest of emotions.

editor

all i can say is i loved my chemistry teacher

Hi

Please help me! I am very confused these days. I am going into a marriage relationship in near future, but I am still confused about the decision of marriage. Its been almost 3 months that we are in the courtship period, but I dont feel any feeling of love or attraction towards my fiance. She is a very good girl, having all the good qualities, but we are quite different in everything. I dont like anything, she does. I am quite open minded and a garrulous person. On the other hand, she is quiet and emotional. Now I have come to a point that I am not able to decide whether to go ahead with the relationship or not. I feel that if I will be forced for this marriage I will not be able to keep her or myself happy throughout my life. On the contrary, she loves me a lot, and she thinks that if we will face any problem in future we will adjust and solve the problem. I have also tried to work out the differences in these 3 months and spent time with her to get a feel, but neither has worked so far. I just eschew her company, phones and everything. I just dont know, why is this happening. Do you have any advise for me?? I just want to know that is it possible for anyone to fall in love after getting married?? or is this really important for marriage, that you love your spouse?? Please help asap!!!!

Assalam-o-alikum
today love has brought me at this stage of my life that i wont neither laugh nor smile,just weep thru whole night,the person who came into my life plunged me towards love,at that time i even didnt know what is love,i very first time talked to a guy,and felt very different and thought it was love,i was spending my life very happily,but after indulging in love i just destroyed my life,i failed in my exams,i was the brilliant student of my class,my classmates,teachers,parents were shocked to knew this downfall of mine,i loved that person very much,ater two months i went to my home country,he was also from my home country but we both were living in a same foreign country,we met on net,he even didnt see me and told me that he love me...after going to my home country i called him many times,but he didnt called me as much as i called him,sent hin msgs but he didnt replied,and when i came back from my home country after 5 months,he was totally changed,i dont know what has happened wid him,his prorities are changes,wenever i called him he remain busy in doing his work,he neither stays at home,just go outside and roam here and there,he says that he gets peace in living alone,but my question is that,if he gets peace while living alone then why did he came into my life?why?why he destroyed my life,i forget to smile,the girl who used to laugh all the time,why now she cries all the time,i am the only daughter of my parents and he is the only son of his parents,my parents are very much worried foe me,they dont know abt this incident,i am also very much confused,dont know what to do,there is also 8 years of gap in ours age,thats why i hezitate to speak or say what i waana say,and just keep my self quesioning all the time but couldnt ask him,i am helpless,dont know where to hide so that i could weep easily....

hello to all.....!!!
i just want to say tht believe in God ... coz i was in love wid a guy but he was engaged wid some other girl but i ddidnt get hurt i did contact wid him on ph n internet and after 3 years i knew tht hes no more enagged his fiance has left him and now he is mine totalyy he really cares bout me n loves me so much ........ n this all happened just coz of my prayers ... if i didnt hope for the best i will never get him but c my luck i have my love wid me now n i m v much happy wid him goin to marry v soon pray for me love u alll n never loosse ur hopes its my advice coz hope can do the best work ;)

Hi to all,


Thanks for all your post. I have proposed her my feelings. I am in a terrible situation now. Seem so i have made a blunder of the situation.She has rejected ,coz she is in love with some other guy at the moment. It appears as if i have no sky above and no ground beneath . Where should i fall in rest ??

My hope has become hopeless .Gush man , i have dug my own graveyard.I am lost, please HELP !
It pains more now.How should i surpass this situation ??

be with her,
talk to her,
understand her;
Xpress your feelings for her;
and Be there when she need u,desperatly
u cann`t make other ppl to love you.
She may fell in love with you; if u r lucky(worth)

John...guess u got nothing to lose as u already expect rejection from her...give it a try..who knows you may get what u want. Best of Luck.

I have feelings for one of the girls ,with whom i was undergoing my post graduation.

I never reciprocated my feelings to her, since she was in a steady relation ship with yet another guy for the past 4 years.They broke off because of certain family reasons. They still talks over the phone and meets once in a 3 months.

I am in a fix - what should i do ?? shall i let her know what are my underneath feelings for her or shall i just keep quiet.Though she is not interested in me(it seems apparent from her response and behaviour).I am not letting her know my feelings to her because, i fear rejection.I am in a serious trouble. Please advice.

I think whoever doesn't experience chemistry and love is very shallow! Too rapped up in what they think the world has to offer! I think the most beautiful and meaningful experience in this life is to truly connect with someone!

Having said that I have had many previous relationships that have ended.. kind of. I can guarantee that nothing in life is permanent especially not that initial feeling of being in love! I do on the other hand believe that falling in love is God's way of telling you that u should get to know someone better. There is nothing in the world that can get you out of your loneliness as when you simply connect with someone that truly understands and hears you. No matter how much time has passed. I think situations and people come into your life exactly when u need them and that’s only to teach you certain lessons or to help u get to know yourself better.

To whoever is feelin lonely out there: "Be happy in knowing that what is yours will surely come to you." Just make sure you make the best out of it when it does

My marriage was arranged and my husband is an NRI living in USA. Our marriage was fixed all of a sudden and I came to US after my marriage. Now, it has been 3 years, but still I am having problems with my husband. He is very short tempered and dominant. I have problems understanding his mood and feel helpless. Added to my problem is that I feel lonely and have no one to share my feelings. When I was in INDIA, I always used to share my feeling with my sister and mom. But now, I feel they are so far and also, I fear that my family will be worried about me. I am very frustrated. Please advice.

The reality is that it is YOU yourself can come out of your problem. You need to try your best to learn to understand how to deal with a dominant and short tempered guy, second develop local friendship and social circle with other people and increase your communication with him.

You knew that living far from your family is part of the deal. If you cant face the realities you have to either accept them and deal with it or tell him what you feel.

The only alternative is to change your attitude and try to learn WHY is he behaving that way the way he does by communicating and by being polite and patient.

editor

No it is not chemistry, it is BIOlogy(LUST)Socialogy(Relation) and physics(negetive/positive/attraction/oposite sex) if they still want to continue then they will add ECONMICS/commerce/Maths bla bla....(if they marry)

yes i do believe there is some chemistry in love why else would we attract why else bother to have love. if there is nothing there no "chemistry" as some may call it, no muse to arose the endless love senses that arose the butterflies and sweaty palms then how can there be love at all, because i tell you something can come from something but something can never come from nothing.

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