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can anyone help me on muslim religion i would really like to talk to someone who actually knows what they are talking about. i am a white girl named ashleigh and i am doing a project at school and i choose to talk about muslim marriages. i find it interesting and i really needf to know all about it. anything can help me as i cannot find anything really at my school. if you can help me please email me or tell me where i can find it please
thank you for your help

Aryan, you have no educatoin or information about muslims if you think we don't bathe, it is part of our religion TO BATHE fully anytime we have sex, or get dirty from working etc. also to WASH well before praying , and we pray FIVE TIMES A DAY> do you understand? people who wash 5 times a day, and bathe every single day of thier lives, sometimes more than once a day, cannot be dirty. it is in no place in ISLAM to be unclean, or NOT to bathe. please get some education before you make ignorant comments.

Dear Editor
I understand that you have deleted my message with the starting line as 'I am a Hindu girl and got deeply involved with a Muslim guy. Initially it started as a friendship, and both of us knew it will never work out as he asked me in the beginning itself about conversion.'
But you have pasted the whole message in your answer saying its deleted, so not serving the purpose I really wanted. I am just not comfortable it being out in open.Please delete your message too.
thanks

This was the original message that was deleted.
Since it has no email or contacts its anonymous.

I am a Hindu girl and got deeply involved with a Muslim guy. Initially it started as a friendship, and both of us knew it will never work out as he asked me in the beginning itself about conversion. I told him I would like to pursue the proposal but never ever think of conversion. But somehow, things didn't stop for us, knowing all the way it won't work for us. I have known him for 7 years now. I always wanted to keep a distance but we were so emotionally dependent on each other. We have been with each other in very trying times of life and we totally support each other in everything. He kept thinking that I would change my mind someday and I thought that I would get over him. I would have been extremely happy if he never asked about conversion and we worked out things otherwise. To my surprise and to his as well, we couldn't get to agree to each other and I decided to marry somebody else. Well, my marriage has been in trouble from day 1 because of many issues (not because of my past). I have been married for a year now though lived with my husband only a couple of months. This Muslim guy still wants to marry me. Which tells me how much he really loves me but is bound by his religion. I am not a very practising Hindu, but I could never get myself to think of converting. I have always honored my origin and I have absolute respect for every other beliefs as long as it serves humanity.
But because of all the experience, I have started to think again. Should I convert and go for love (it must be true... withstanding all the trying times and separation and my marriage) or settle for a risk-free life without any conversion where I may anyway never experience true love and happiness.
If I convert he will not ask me to follow any of his rituals if I don't want to, but just not to follow any of the Hindu rituals. Also, the kids would be Muslims. I find this not totally unacceptable and I do not know if things would melt a little once we are together. I am very confused as to how much I should be willing to sacrifice to gain this togethrness. Also, now that I am already married, it would be more difficult getting accepted by society, adding the religion factor to it. But he says that we would work out those things, only if I decide to convert. Initially I thought I could do it for name's sake, but may be I am just underestimating the consequences. Your suggestions are very welcome!

To Crusader and all the other religious fanatics out there, it's time you really woke up. You seriously think your religion is better than others to go about maligning the rest of them? Religion is nothing more than mumbo-jumbo. You say you believe in God, but seriously, what God would leave his 'loved' ones to suffer in such pain and agony? Give me a break, man. Religion sucks!

Dear Editor,
Could you please tell me how I can delete any of my messages that I posted before but dont find it appropriate to be there in open anymore.
Thanks

PL post the first line of msgs that you want to be deleted.

moder.

Anonumous, what a good comment;"ISLAM is the arabic word for PEACE!
and a MUSLIM means someone who is striving for perfection in peace! "

you wolf in sheeps skin,
have u ever asked your brothers why they killed Denial perl in pakistan(they slit his throt and recorded it) a journalist, in the name of religion,just because he was a jew.
in mindanao,Philiphines these so called peace lovers chop innocent people heads in front of their own relatives and video shoot WHY...?
What wrong they have done,the people who died in WTC;
what happend in Spain, few days back.
why there is problem in chechniya,sudan,yemen,iraq,pakistan,Afghanistan,indonesia,india,bosnia,israel.

now everyone know the truth.no need to Xplain,its not religion of peace,nor its followers,just see how they cut a sheep.forget about other humans.

Before peeps get all emotional use that thing located in ur head! its called a brain!
in all religions there are peeps who portray their religion in wrong ways! we are not a perfect race! and hence we are not perfect we make mistakes! y do hindus,sikhs and muslims drink? smoke? have sex before marriage it is all written in our holy books! people READ ur holy books and others! it is the only thing that is true not peoples actions! as they can be true and many False!
oh and aryan for u Muslim are very hygenic! for one being circumcised prevents infection to ur forskin, think abt it, wen a male pisses, and stops he will always drip and that drip of urine will stay in between the urinal exit and the exit of the forskin hence inside the forskin. also how sweaty do u get down there, with pubic hair u retain dirt and sweat and also itchy little mites due to uncleanliness! if ur gna say its meant to b there cos i was born with it then y do u cut ur heair and shave! the same goes for all men and women! ur have to look after this body! ask urself wat u believe will happen wen u die? and after u believe in Nirvanahow long ddoes ur s called soul live for? ill tell u we as human, not physical buthte element that makes us US, our soul will never end! how can we we couldnt control us being here in the first place our parents didnt select our personality, they didnt select if we were to be male or female! u have no control, not even in ur dreams. and again i say! read ur holy books how many times have they been changed!
u have to find out the truth in ur roots. all my mates Hindu/Muslim/Sikh, esp my sikh mate he telles me that many of the scholars and holy pious people who wrote his holy book were Muslim and from many other religions. now u tell me!
again i will say wen an image of a hindu god falls, breaks cracks decays, who are we to blame ? y did it fall in the first place if it was gods will y did he make it fall and b destroyed the answer is we are meant to WORSHIP THAT WHICH HAS CREATED US AND not THAT WHICH WE HAVE CREATED.
i am not perfect but every moment in my life i aim to do perfection. and again y is it that islam is one of the fasatest growing religions in the world?
please people its ur life, not ne one elses u will b judged wen u die by god! so the time u have do some reading and research and pick up a book and read it!LEARN and dont b ignorant u talk abt ur religions as if its the best then y do u curse Muslims and otehr people look at ur own mistakes before u curse others!
how many of u guys go and take otehr girls virginity let alone ur own before marriage. how is she to feel wen she knows that mens penises have been misused for pleasure before her first child is born! think about it!
ISLAM is the arabic word for PEACE!
and a MUSLIM means someone who is striving for perfection in peace!

by

a MUSLIM

hi i've read some of ur messages.i'm especially concerned about the one where it says that a muslim girl is in luv wiv a white guy. i'm in exactly the same position!we both really want to be together forever but it's so complicated. it's a secret as i don't dare tell aneone apart from my best friend. i love him and have never felt like this before please help on advice and what i should do. thanks

Love does not see boundaries or barrier by man made religions.

Yet since you have a social life, you need social approval and if you think you can live without your family go ahead unless your family is really advanced.

If not just control your whims and be realistic. No use of illusionary love affairs that end in tragedy.

Editor

im in luv wiv a white guy but im a muslim.we want to marry and no1 nos that we r together. please help me

Are you getting married to someone of a different faith?
The BBC is making a series of documentaries about weddings in unusual circumstances around the world. Researchers are looking for Indian couples who are soon to be married to feature in one of the films. If there is a couple who are from different religious backgrounds who would consider being filmed then they should contact weddingfilm@bbc.co.uk

don't marry a dirty terrorist. PERIOD.

Hindu/Sikh girls, stay away from Muslims. Their sole purpose in life is to convert as many Kafirs as they can.

Think about this before you bed a non-bathing (yes, many muslims don't bathe as its a part of their religion) dirty Muslim.

If he truly loved you he would accept you as you are, Hindu or not....My Muslim man tried the conversion thing with me also. It must be like an obligation or something for them. To make a long story short, he could bend the rules for many things like keeping a dog, eating BK and McDonald's (not halal), etc. therefore, he could bend the rules for me also. The bottom line is, he and his parents did bend the rules for me, we're together and I'm still a Hindu. Our kids....we don't have any yet but the general sentiment between us and our parents is that they will be caught somewhere between Hinduism and Islam and that is absolutely fine as long as they have FAITH in God.

Dear Medha,
I am a Gujarati Hindu girl dating a Tamil Muslim man for the past 3 years. We started very much the same way over 6 years ago, as friends and then eventually lovers. When our friendship evolved into a physical one, requiring us to tell others we were dating, the difference in religion immediately became an issue and I told him then that I would never convert. Unfortunately, he must have been thinking with his other head because within 2 weeks, he was back in my bed (so much for being a proper Muslim, or Hindu for that matter). I figured that he knew my position on the issue of conversion and eventually everyone knew we were dating including our parents and religion was now a non-issue, case closed, right? WRONG!!! This past May, I finally pressed him for a marriage commitment and he came up with every excuse in the book thinking he could buy himself some more time. Mind you, I'm already 25 and time is of the essence, especially since we would like to have kids eventually. None of his excuses were legitimate and when all excuses had been exhausted, his false hopes of me eventually converting were finally revealed and I left him at that same moment. Why should I waste another second on something leading absolutely no where but down. I was Shocked!!!... That it took him nearly three years to decide whether he could spend his life with a Hindu. I never even once considered asking him to convert but apparently, he didn’t feel obligated to uphold the same respect for me. He had no choice, he could either live his life with me, or without me and he finally grew some balls and used the good sense God gave him to choose with. He realizes and accepts the fact that our home, our lives and our children will not be Muslim, how could they with a Hindu mother. Rather, they will be somewhere in between Hinduism and Islam. What difference does the name make when the bottom line is FAITH? He has asked for his parents blessing even if they do not necessarily agree with our decision. They have the best intentions for us and have promised not to interfere in our married lives and we plan to get engaged after his residency is over in '04. I’m telling you this not to advise you about dating Muslims, I’m telling you this because love means accepting the other person despite their differences and maybe even because of them.

Medha,

It's such a shame hindu women, and men for that matter as well losing their identity and roots of thousands of years for marrying muslims. You know even muslim women make their hindu men convert to Islam. Why are Hindu men/women so weak. It's not about religion. It's as if muslims do not respect you for who you are. Why can he not convert to Hinduism?? Why do all the kids have to convert to Islam?? If he does love you as much as he says, I don't see why he should not accept you as who you are (which you are a very good person).

Do not lose your heritage over something like this. I am a hindu and had a Pakistani muslim girlfriend. I never asked her to convert to my religion (I respect her culture) I told her straight up that I am never going to convert to hers. We never argued after that. We are not together anyways because of the shit that started to creep in gradually.

If you have told your boyfriend that you do not want to convert then that should be the end of discussions. As I said before things start all nice but once you get married and try to keep your religion (even though your not practising) his family will give you a load of crap every step of your life. And I am pretty sure once he realizes that you have nowhere else to go he can come down harder on you.

So think about it!!!